When the people around us are afflicted with unfortunate circumstances, it impacts us profoundly. At times, it knocks the wind out of us.
We cry uncontrollably for the death of someone we’ve never met. We burn with anger for a child that was neglected by their mother. We mourn over her failure to accept the responsibility and recognize motherhood for the privilege it is. We are overwhelmed with sadness and pity for a wife whose husband walks out on her and their 8 kids. We worry about how she will feed them with no education or command of the local language. We are in awe when a husband waits for the test results of his HIV screening. We are disgusted by his wife’s dishonesty and devastated by her selfishness. We wonder with every ounce of our being what she was thinking. We hurt for all of them and cannot imagine how and if they can ever heal from this.
As Muslims we wish the best and make dua for them, and ourselves, that things get better. We have hope in the Mercy of Allah SWT and faith that His plan is the best possible way. Regardless of whether or not we can recognize that as the case at the time. However, we are still confused and angry. Because we can’t wrap our head around what we’re feeling, or put our finger on what’s causing it.
Allah SWT tells us in Surat Al-Furqan to, “…put thy trust in Him Who lives and dies not; and celebrate his praise; and enough is He to be acquainted with the faults of His servants;- “ (25:58)
Hold that thought. We will come back to this verse in a bit.
These stories touch us on a very basic level. They wear down our spirit and instill a primitive fear in us, that everything really isn’t okay. Hearing about these situations make us doubt the strength of our own relationships with those around us. What does the future hold for me? How long is it before, God forbid, I get a call from my siblings telling me that we’ve lost a family member?
Our human nature makes us susceptible to negative feelings that cloud our perception; fear and doubt in particular. The Messenger of Allah PBUH said in a hadith that, ‘faith increases and decreases.’ This is especially the case when things are happening around us and we don’t understand them.
There is no better advice, then that of the Exalted Creator of mankind and all of existence. “And verily thy Lord knoweth all that their hearts do hide. As well as all that they reveal”. (27:74) He knows when there is an uneasy feeling lurking in our chests, and when we put up a front. He sees when our spirit is shaken by the events that surround us.
He knows when fear and insecurity creep up on us.’…Does not Allah know best all that is in the hearts of all creation?’ (29:10) And he reminds us in Surat An-Nas to seek refuge in Him from doubt, and the whispers of the cursed Shaytan, the one “who whispers into the hearts of Mankind.”(114:6)
When we turn to Allah SWT and put our trust in Him, we are protected from the devil’s whispers. “As for My servants, no authority shalt thou have over them:” Enough is thy Lord for a Disposer of affairs. (17:65)
We love our husbands and wives, we want the best for our children and we adore our parents and hope they are proud of us. We miss our grandparents and wish we did more for them. When we hear these stories we can’t help but feel that something like that might happen to us. These evil actions hurt our collective spirit. We wear brave faces, but inside it cuts us down and tears away at our self-esteem.
The best way to handle these situations is to recognize them for exactly what they are.
These are reminders to us of the imperfection of mankind.
Our flawed nature is a testament to the Divinity of Allah SWT. People make mistakes, “If Allah were to punish men for their wrong-doing, He would not leave, on the (earth), a single living creature” (16:61). And they do it a lot. They betray, hurt, disappoint, neglect and break each other.
Now lets go back to Surat Al-Furqan’s verse 58, “…put thy trust in Him Who lives and dies not; and celebrate his praise; and enough is He to be acquainted with the faults of His servants.” The other point was that in this verse Allah SWT mentions his eternal existence. Unlike people, He is always there. We will eventually loose everyone we consider close to us, except Allah SWT. Ultimately making Him the best Companion.
Every negative thing that happens to us can either be a lesson or a bad experience, and in both cases is a test.
We should be patient through these tests, because patience is needed during the affliction, and not after the fact. What distinguishes punishment from lessons is how it affects us. If we are tested with a tough time, and have the opportunity to come out of it having learned something, and as a result change the way we see ourselves and lives as a whole, then it was a lesson. If we are afflicted and are only harmed by it but make no changes to our life then it was just a bad experience.
Whatever the problem, no matter how drastic it is, just remember that we belong to Allah SWT and to Him we return. We should put our trust in Allah SWT because He never fails us.
“And Allah is the best of Protectors and He is the Most Merciful.” – (12:64)







